Krinophobia - fear of choosing a side in an argument or battle
Krinaphobia - Lizy, storyteller, graduate, former anthropology major, terrible speller, creator of Angelverse, co-creator of Hunter, lover of mythology and nerdology
but it was NOT YOUR FAULT BUT MINE
and it was YOUR HEART ON THE LINE
i really FUCKED IT UP THIS TIME
didn’t I MY DEAR
didn’t I my -
i can’t believe the leader of the free world cheated on jay
Can we stop using the word “curvy” when what we really mean is “I don’t want to say ‘fat’ because fatness is bad and this person/character has accentuated features in socially acceptable places,” please? Can we stop demonizing fatness and coming up with paternalistic euphemisms for fatness to replace the word “fat?”
Sincerely, a fat person.
This is an interesting take on the word “curvy” that I hadn’t considered before. I’m fond of the word because as a writer, I think it’s important to have ways of describing body types beyond “fat.” Weight is distributed in so many ways, a blanket statement about whether a person is carrying extra pounds is in no way an indicator of what they look like.
I’m ashamed to say that most of the female characters I currently write a ferociously underweight. To be fair, they’re underweight because they’re malnourished, but the fact remains. I have two females who carry extra weight, but if I called them fat, the image conjured in the reader’s mind would be inaccurate. And that’s not just due to the negative connotations of fat. It’s because the same word cannot be used to describe both women.
One woman, Nyx, is described a curvy for a number of reasons. First, her body is highly feminized and sexualized, by her own choice. Rightly or wrongly, she’s a believer of feminine wiles and wants to emulate the beauty of a different era. Second, as you said, Nyx has “accentuated features in socially acceptable places.” Her hips and bust are bigger (if only slightly) than her waist. Does she have the booty? Probably she do. Third, in the world she lives in (a post-apocalyptic wasteland where everyone else is starving), her body type is much more rare and a sign of prosperity. The character who first describes her, Ace, views her as curvy and thinks Nyx is the most beautiful woman she’s ever seen. I chose the word curvy because I thought it reflected the image Nyx is trying to present and the way her body type would be glorified by the people around her.
The other character, Blue, has a body type I would describe as “large,” meaning that her body weight combines with her height to give the over all impression that there’s lot of her, as if she’s just build on a different scale than other people. She is a intimidating, not-shit-taking, unstoppable powerhouse, and is likened by Ace (favorably) to a brick wall. Blue actually struggles a lot with balancing the traditional ideas of femininity being delicate and dainty with the fact that she could literately be run over by a train and get right back up without a scratch on her.
So much of Blue and Nyx’s character is reflected and expressed through their specific body types. That would all be lost if I called them both fat. I can imagine your frustration at people’s dancing around the word “fat,” as if it is a bad word we should never say. But I wanted to point out that there is value in using other words, because bodies are far more than a number of pounds.
And for what it’s worth, I’ve never viewed you as fat, I’ve always seen you as having that “large” body type like Blue, because you are so tall. It is true, I have difficulty using the word fat because I’ve always struggled with my father being overweight (as petty as that sounds). But in your case that simply isn’t the word that comes to mind when I see you.
Olivia, my eldest daughter, caught measles when she was seven years old. As the illness took its usual course I can remember reading to her often in bed and not feeling particularly alarmed about it. Then one morning, when she was well on the road to recovery, I was sitting on her bed showing her how to fashion little animals out of coloured pipe-cleaners, and when it came to her turn to make one herself, I noticed that her fingers and her mind were not working together and she couldn’t do anything.
“Are you feeling all right?” I asked her.
“I feel all sleepy, ” she said.
In an hour, she was unconscious. In twelve hours she was dead.
The measles had turned into a terrible thing called measles encephalitis and there was nothing the doctors could do to save her.
That was twenty-four years ago in 1962, but even now, if a child with measles happens to develop the same deadly reaction from measles as Olivia did, there would still be nothing the doctors could do to help her.
On the other hand, there is today something that parents can do to make sure that this sort of tragedy does not happen to a child of theirs. They can insist that their child is immunised against measles. I was unable to do that for Olivia in 1962 because in those days a reliable measles vaccine had not been discovered. Today a good and safe vaccine is available to every family and all you have to do is to ask your doctor to administer it.
It is not yet generally accepted that measles can be a dangerous illness.
Believe me, it is. In my opinion parents who now refuse to have their children immunised are putting the lives of those children at risk.
In America, where measles immunisation is compulsory, measles like smallpox, has been virtually wiped out.
Here in Britain, because so many parents refuse, either out of obstinacy or ignorance or fear, to allow their children to be immunised, we still have a hundred thousand cases of measles every year.
Out of those, more than 10,000 will suffer side effects of one kind or another.
At least 10,000 will develop ear or chest infections.
About 20 will die.
LET THAT SINK IN.
Every year around 20 children will die in Britain from measles.
So what about the risks that your children will run from being immunised?
They are almost non-existent. Listen to this. In a district of around 300,000 people, there will be only one child every 250 years who will develop serious side effects from measles immunisation! That is about a million to one chance. I should think there would be more chance of your child choking to death on a chocolate bar than of becoming seriously ill from a measles immunisation.
So what on earth are you worrying about?
It really is almost a crime to allow your child to go unimmunised."
Roald Dahl, 1986
NINETEEN EIGHTY SIX.
roald dahl was calling out the anti-vaccination movement as self indulgent bullshit //thirty god damn years ago//.
And this is only in recent history. I can’t imagine the numbers if we had data all the way back to 1986.
Nothing will fuck up your twenties more than thinking you’re supposed to have your shit together.